Our lives are like honeycombs with spaces to fill our time as we choose - most spaces filled with activities to maintain our body and lifestyle.
We also have spaces available for the interweaving of relationship, and as we relate one on one we weave our threads of separateness into a tapestry, which seems solid and permanent.
When a personal relationship disintegrates we feel pain as the cloth of our bonding is torn to shreds. It hurts to rip apart from the relationships we create.
To once again establish peace and harmony begin reweaving the torn threads into a more refined tapestry. Time spent in meditation reflecting on what brings personal peace is time well spent. Try the following meditation:
Meditation on rebuilding our lives
Choose a quiet place to sit and begin regulated breathing such as: breathe in 2 counts; breathe out 2 counts; breathe in 2 counts, and continue this pattern until you feel calm and relaxed.
Now reflect on the these thoughts and afterward record your insights in a journal for later review:
By upgrading self-centered feelings into caring, we relax and regain our sense of balance and harmony. Evolution is a natural building and tearing down process that makes space for refined and redesigned structures. A relationship fails to be a relationship when one or both can no longer grow within the current set of circumstances, conditions, and interactions.
It is okay to begin rebuilding with a different set of circumstances and another person. We again take up our threads and begin reweaving a new and more refined pattern into our relationship cloth. It is the natural evolution.
Eventually we create an intimate relationship out of mutual unconditional caring love steeped in harmony, withstanding external pressure and changes.
It is a tapestry whose threads are as pure liquid silver, whose lightness and lovingness is eternal, and indestructible by mortal happenings. This kind of relationship is created when we live our life lovingly for the highest good of ourselves, and simultaneously for the highest good of the relationship.
The pain of disintegration is a fiery refining process. Consciously allowing, surrendering, and letting go of an unworkable relationship forms a bridge to a better life for both.
We create our reality as we choose based on past experience and insights. In one area or another we're in process of building up or tearing down. Pain is perceived when we feel we've lost, but in reality we're rearranging to fulfill our needs and desires, and learning to relate with unconditional love.
Article and photo of pressed flower by Susan Kramer
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