When being selfish or thinking selfishly we may be distraught and not thinking clearly. That's the time to settle into a meditation.
With a sitting or walking meditation begin with a few rounds of regular even breathing such as breathing in two counts; breathing out two counts; breathing in 2 counts, continuing along in this even pattern without actually saying the numbers. Rather, that is the breathing rhythm to maintain.
Thoughts and actions are tied by breath. When we are overexcited or upset we feel agitated and breathing is irregular; we may not be thinking for the highest good. By consciously coordinating breathing into a regular and even in and out pattern, thoughts and body both calm.
Now, in your sitting or walking meditation spend some minutes reflecting on how kindness sets the scene for easy and effective communication. Reflect that when you feeling the positive emotion of kindness you are not likely feeling selfish.
Eliminating selfishness in communication opens the door for a win-win result for both.
Replacing selfishness with kindness is more effective, because it is an easier way of getting what you need or want. Others are more willing to help, rather than wanting to invent excuses to get away from you and avoid further communication.
Finish your meditation with the firm resolve to replace a selfish agenda with kindness and friendliness in communication. This is a skill that really benefits from using meditation time to reflect upon and rehearse for your own situations.
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Article by Susan Helene Kramer
