Guest Author - Carissa Vaughn
Monitoring the input we give ourselves on a daily basis is important for self esteem. If you are constantly giving yourself ‘negative feedback’ or are on the receiving end of negative input from someone else this often makes a huge impact on how high or low your self-esteem will be. The people who have the most influence over how we feel about ourselves are our parents, spouses or a significant other.
Speaking positively, whether of yourself or over your life will affect how you feel and even how others view you. Even if you have a bad day, or make a dumb mistake – remember you’re only human! It is not to your benefit to tell everyone what a 'horrible job' you've done. It is not flattering to say "I'm so dumb!" "I can't do anything right!"
Tell yourself “I’m a good person.” “I am happy today.” “My children will be fine today.” Whatever it is that applies to you and how you’re feeling. Sopping up your worries, feeding on self pity, “poor me” – this will spill over into your life, your relationships, your thoughts. It will drive away many of your friends or potential friends because you then become an emotional burden for them. It is difficult enough in our own life sometimes to function than to have to be responsible for making someone else feel good, every day.
It is important to teach the young generation these points as well. Teenagers can become wrapped up in 'rescuing' another student or their boy/girlfriend. Though that is a noble effort, it does not help the other person to learn to be responsible for how they feel, they may become dependent on someone else for how they feel.
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