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Turn Your Weakness Into A Strength

Guest Author - Dr. Jonice Webb

Do you have a poor memory? A lousy sense of humor? Severe ADD?

If you have one of these challenges in life or some other challenge, you are not alone. Every single person alive has his or her own pattern of strengths and weaknesses. Even the most brilliant genius has some pocket of intellectual challenge.

The strongest people are the ones who know full well what their weaknesses are and accept them.

The weakest people are the ones who think they shouldn't have any weaknesses. Denying that we have a weakness gives that weakness more power.

The irony is that our weaknesses don't have to weaken us at all. One of my patients recently, in an 'aha' moment for herself during a therapy session, said it better than I could:

"If I have a missing leg and I refuse to accept that it's really missing, I'll continually attempt activities that are inappropriate for me and beyond my reach. I'll try to walk farther and faster than is possible, and I will continually feel like a failure. On the other hand, if I acknowledge my missing leg as the hard reality that it is, I can then work with it. I can get an artificial leg, physical therapy, or do whatever it takes to manage and make up for it. I can attempt activities that are appropriate for me and feel a sense of accomplishment and of overcoming adversity."

My patient used a concrete physical weakness to illustrate an abstract principle. But the principle applies to all sorts of weaknesses, like for example Learning Disabilities, ADD, a poor memory, or a lack of experience at a job.

Follow these Tips for turning your weakness into a strength:

1. Write your weakness on a piece of paper.

2. Next to it, write any ideas you might have for making an improvement in this area. Keep in mind that not all weaknesses can be improved.

3. Now write ways in which you can work around your weakness. Keep in mind that there is always a way to work around any area of weakness.

4. Make a decision to stop trying to hide your weakness. Talk about it. Own it. Make jokes about it. You will find that it loses its power when it is no longer secret or shameful.

5. Take note of your strengths. Remember that you are more than just your weaknesses. You are a full picture of a human being, a pattern of pluses and minuses, just like everyone else.

You are not defined by your challenges.

Acknowledging, owning and sharing your weakness will make you stronger.

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