Soothing children's fears following traumatic events can soften both short term and long term effects of the situation. Depending on the age of the child, adults can provide comfort by following certain guidelines even when we are feeling none too safe ourselves.

Supporting children when they are experiencing distress helps them learn coping strategies and encourages resilience. Many adults find that comforting and reassuring children helps them to find the inner resources they need to carry on in difficult situations. Children find comfort in voices, contact, and familiarity. A snack, drink and nap, a stuffed animal to cuddle and a comfortable nook where they feel safe can each revive a child's courage and sense of well being.

It is always important that adults pay attention to their own needs for support and encouragement following traumatic events. Talking with other adults helps us acknowledge that we are not alone in our experiences and feelings. Pretending that we feel a strength that no one can sustain during traumatic events makes us more vulnerable to the stress.

Children with developmental disabilities are sometimes treated as if they are unaware of situations that are putting extreme stress on their caregivers, and may be 'filling in the blanks' with their own facts that are much more frightening than the actual situation. A simple remedy is explaining that something unusual is happening and giving permission for children to express their feelings or ask questions. It is reassuring to them that adults in charge are aware of their concerns.

Those with physical disabilities may be more frightened about potential crisis situations because they feel they have less control over their environment and may be less able to escape a dangerous situation than their mainstream peers. Children with disabilities are especially vulnerable to verbal and physical attacks from bullies, and bystander or survival guilt when they are not able to protect their friends or family from danger.

Most adults remember frightening experiences from childhood, and regret putting their children in situations where they are extremely frightened by simple, avoidable sounds or images. Balloons popping, dogs barking, startling claps or older children yelling 'boo'; halloween masks or clowns - and even a yearly photo op with Santa - can be extremely distressing to young children, especially those with sensory discomfort or other issues.

Even more frightening are natural disasters, terrorism, violence, and bereavement; scary scenes on television and in movies, and - especially - real events in the child's household or community. Children who have a father, mother or other relative serving in the military see frightening news stories on television, and like other children may be fearful about more than the possible loss of loved ones.

Children with disabilities, like their mainstream counterparts, can develop anxiety reactions, post traumatic stress disorder, depression and other problems.

When children develop mental health issues, symptoms can vary from those usually seen in adults, or they may be quite similar but are misinterpreted because they are attributed to a stage of development or a primary diagnosis.

For most children, the same care and comfort that their grandparents found in childhood works well in reuilding a sense of safety and hopefulness.

Children continue to need soothing and comfort from adults in charge long after dramatic events, and may not recover from some traumatic experiences without counseling, or medication with counseling, and time.

We know much more today about children's difficulties and their needs for special attention following traumatic events than in previous eras. Assuring them that there will be days ahead when they again will feel safe, happy and carefree helps them trust in the future no matter how frightening their experiences have been.

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US DHHS - Coping with Disaster -- Suggestions for Helping Children with Cognitive Disabilities
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/add/Sept11/addcoping.html

National PTA article for parents - When Disaster Strikes: Helping children cope with life at its worst

Mr Rogers - Divorce

Mr Rogers - Death

National Association of School Psychologists -Coping with Reactions to Hurricane Katrina: Information for Parents

The National Institute of Mental Health - Help Children Cope with Violence and Disasters

Psychological After Effects of Disaster

Healing the After-Effects of Hurricane Katrina

American Psychological Association Help Center
Hurricane Katrina and Children
Resilience: After Hurricane Katrina
Managing Traumatic Stress: Dealing with Hurricane Katrina from Afar
Resiliencia: Después del Huracán Katrina
Manejando el estres traumatico: El Huracan Katrina Y Los Niños
Resilience in a Time of War
Tips for Parents & Day-Care Providers of Preschool Children
Tips for Parents & Teachers of Middle School Children
Wartime Stress & Teens
Loss of a Loved One
The Road To Resilience