Melissa Riggio Made a Difference

In memory of Melissa Ann Riggio
March 25, 1988 - April 7, 2008

Melissa Riggio passed away on April 7, 2008 at the age of 20, during a battle with leukemia that took her away from us much too soon. My sympathies go to her family. I wish them peace and comfort in their memories of her beautiful life.

Her writing introduced us to her hopes and dreams, as well as her love of her sisters, Laura and Christina. Her poems inspired performer Rachel Fuller to set them to music, with Pete Townshend of The Who producing. Melissa Riggio wrote a fine article for the National Geographic Kids magazine explaining what having friends, and having Down syndrome, meant in her life. Her words set the tone for the book, Chicken Soup for the Soul - Children with Special Needs. She was crowned Prom Queen at her high school, had a job she enjoyed, with aspirations to continue her education and become a counselor. She also continued working toward her dream of becoming a singer and performer.

Her parents, Steve and Laura Riggio, became advocates for all our families when newborn Melissa was diagnosed with Down syndrome. Steve Riggio was the executive vice president of Barnes and Noble book sellers at the time. Families of children with any disability, chronic health conditions, or other special needs, should be aware of the impact Melissa's birth had on our access to up to date information in books that may not have been published, had a place for them never been dedicated to them in a specific section in Barnes & Noble and B. Dalton bookstores nationwide.

As CEO of Barnes and Noble Steve Riggio has continued to develop practical and creative ways to raise awareness and open up opportunities for young people, learning from Melissa's aspirations, including her desire to pursue further education. He was also inspired to continue to encourage and support professionals and advocates to publish books and find better ways for them to reach their intended audience.

My son was four when Melissa was born, and I still remember the first time I stood in front of the first Special Needs section display at our local store when he was eight years old, recently diagnosed with diabetes. I have thought of her every time I walked into a Barnes and Noble store since then, and although we spend most of our time in the same sections we patronized before that small but significant place of welcome was created, those particular shelves are always at the edge of my awareness.

That section is where I found the 2007 Chicken Soup for the Soul book that included one of my stories in it. The first time my daughter, son and I saw the other stories in the book was right there in our local store. Melissa Riggio's words can be found at the last page of the introduction: "See Me."

What she accomplished through her birth into the Riggio family was huge for the rest of us, but I think even that pales in comparison to the effect she had on her community and our whole population by being just the person she was while growing up, and who she turned out to be. It is a tragedy for all of us that we are missing what would have certainly continued to be a remarkable adult life.

Melissa's birth on March 25, 1988, made great positive differences in our access to up to date and comprehensive information on parenting and childhood disabilities. Her life gave us insight into the unique and wonderful mind of a young woman for whom Down syndrome was incidental to her accomplishments and goals. Her inspiration was in the way she approached her dreams, and the simplicity of her expression as an advocate.

Of course it is our day to day contact, our desire to see what our sons and daughters will go on to enjoy and accomplish in the future, how they enhance the lives of everyone they meet, and how they interact with us one to one and at family gatherings, or out in the world, that makes such a terrible empty echo when a life is cut short. Melissa Riggio's story, and everything she wrote, reminds me of what a treasure we find every day in each of our sons and daughters.

Melissa Riggio's spirit and strong, positive influence will continue beyond her twenty years in the world. Those of us who will never meet her in life will continue to benefit from that influence, her inspiration and accomplishments. I wish we could have seen who she would have become if her life had continued along with ours.

Browse at your local bookstore, public library or online retailer for books like Gifts 2: How People with Down Syndrome Enrich the World - a book dedicated inmemory of Melissa Riggio.

Find Melissa Riggio's article for National Geographic Kids at
http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/Stories/PeoplePlaces/Downsyndrome
I Have Down Syndrome - Know Me Before You Judge Me
http://www.ngeo.com/ngkids/0612/index.html

Download Love is a Potion and
The Ring at
http://www.riggio.net/music.htm

Listen to 'The Ring' at '16 Year Old Poet and Songwriter, Melissa Riggio' at the National Down Syndrome Society's Website
http://www1.ndss.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=1139&Itemid=233

Some family and affiliate groups contacted their local Barnes and Noble stores to request space for a display of sympathy cards and notes in gratitude and sympathy for Melissa Riggio, daughter and sister in the family of the Barnes & Nobel CEO, Steve Riggio.

Online Journalist Patricia Bauer Patricia Bauer contacted Barnes and Noble's corporate office, and passed along the message that the family appreciates everyone's warm wishes and concern at this difficult time, but requests that expressions of condolence be sent to Steve Riggio's office.

In lieu of flowers, the family has asked that donations be made to
The Valerie Center at Morristown Memorial Hospital, Morristown Memorial Health Foundation, P.O. Box 1956, Morristown, N.J. 07962. When making a donation, please indicate that it is in memory of Melissa Riggio.
The Valerie Center
https://www.thevaleriefund.org/donate.aspx

For the full article, see:
Remembering Melissa Riggio - What to Do
http://www.patriciaebauer.com/2008/04/09/remembering-melissa-riggio/

New York Times Notice for Melissa Riggio
www.legacy.com/nytimes/DeathNotices.asp?Page=Notice&PersonID=107274414

Notice and Guest Book - New Jersey Star-Ledger
http://obits.nj.com/starledger/GB/GuestbookView.aspx?PersonId=107293936

Also see Patricia Bauer's article:
Melissa Riggio Inspired Changes in Bookselling and Publishing
http://www.patriciaebauer.com/2008/04/08/
or http://tinyurl.com/55wjcn

It includes a link to a 1991 New York Times interview with Steve Riggio
Reading Up on Childhood Disabilities at
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9D0CE7DF103FF93BA3575BC0A967958260&scp=2&sq=melissa+riggio&st=nyt

Terri Mauro - Introducing Melissa Riggio
Daughter of Barnes & Nobel CEO Speaks Out on Down Syndrome
http://specialchildren.about.com/b/2008/04/10/site-of-the-day-melissa-riggio.htm

Terri Mauro's April 10, 2008 Site of the Day - Melissa Riggio
http://specialchildren.about.com/b/2008/04/10/site-of-the-day-melissa-riggio.htm