Children with a diagnosis have the right to express their diversity in this one extra way, and to be included among their mainstream peers from the start. They benefit in the same way as their classmates, knowing that we value them for who they are rather than what they can do or learn by a certain age. 'Typical' children often develop personality or character traits that take us by surprise - but they suffer from alienation and isolation when we make 'exclusive' classrooms the norm, just as our children with disabilities do.

Cliques, bullying, depression, risk-taking behavior, gangs, sexual experimentation, vehicle stunts, dating/domestic violence and suicide risk has not diminished where children with disabilities have been excluded from mainstream classrooms. We are teaching all children the wrong message when we accept second class citizenship for a child with a disability.

When we teach children how to pass tests rather than providing education that is useful in their lives, we fail them. This holds true throughout their educational experience. How many mainstream children take driver's education classes, practice driving, get a license, and then total a vehicle they are driving? The organization driversedge.org provides training for teen drivers in how to keep the car on the road during difficult conditions and to avoid common mistakes drivers make in dangerous situations.

Growing up in inclusive classrooms helps all our children learn not to crash their lives, and gives them tools to get through difficult times. Pretending that mainstream children are all alike might be at the root of many problems they develop as they grow up. Student achievement is highest where every child is encouraged to show us who they are and what they can do.

Families of mainstream students are not going to read the research that shows inclusion is the best option for their sons and daughters, too. If this were happening, they would be advocating from every local unit of the PTA, at our school boards and with our district superintendents.

It is up to parents and advocates for children with disabilities to bring this to the attention of our communities. By working for the civil rights, human rights, and educational rights of our children, we create an atmosphere where all children have the opportunities they need to succeed and survive.

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