Guest Author - Vickie Enkoff

The rewards for those who persevere far exceed the pain that must precede the victory - Ted W. Engstrom

There is no coming to consciousness without pain. Carl Jung

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran



When confronted with a painful situation, you can choose to sink under the weight of the pain or you can go through the pain and come out stronger.

Think about what is causing you the most frustration. Is it something you can live with or something you must resolve before you can move on with your life? If you are tired of the pain, what are you willing to do about it?

Sometimes we feel stuck when we run into obstacles to our goals. We want to give up. Pain and frustration indicate that it is time for a change in attitude, direction or focus. It is important to look at your situation with a new perspective so you can create a plan that creates a more positive feeling. Look at all your options, ask others how they would handle the situation, then create a plan to eliminate the obstacles. Pain and frustration force us to look at our situations and stretch our skills beyond what we already have. If something bad happens, ask yourself what good things might come because of it.

Quitting is a form of giving in to frustration. Frequent quitting causes a loss of confidence. Frustration is easier to handle when it is taken in small doses, so make a bargain with yourself to only work on a problem 5 minutes at a time. Each successful session will improve your self-confidence and you will gain momentum towards your goals.

To conquer frustration you must be persistent. To help you over the rough spots consider the following strategies:

Ask others for help with your problem

Take time out for yourself

Start with adequate sleep, good nutrition, and regular exercise

Develop a support system

Do something else for awhile

Do some deep breathing exercises

Write in a journal:
What will happen if you keep doing things the same?
What would be the outcome if you could have any wish?
List as many ways to overcome your obstacle as you can think of, then choose one to act on.

Take time to play.



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