Guest Author - Pam Garlick

With Valentine’s Day just five days away, I can’t help but wonder if I’m the only person with romance on the brain. I’m certain everyone has their own definition for “Romance”, and those definitions are probably as individual as we are.

I remember reading that many women are turned on by their husbands doing housework. I certainly never complain when my husband helps me around the house, but I seem to feel a combination of relief and gratitude. Relief that I didn’t have to do it. Gratitude that he did. Romance hasn’t entered into it.

No, for me romance comes when we slow our pace. Our life is so busy sometimes, it’s difficult to think about romance. So, the first thing I’d say is we need to take some time and take it slow. A walk together would be a pleasant starter. Of course, with our temperatures well below freezing, without the wind chill factored in, a walk may not be so pleasant for Valentine’s Day.

Since it’s too cold to go outdoors, I would find it very romantic to go out for dinner, then take in a movie. It would have to be a romantic one, of course. Or, vice versa. Go to an early movie, then out to dinner. And dinner would have to be someplace where the music doesn’t have to blast to be heard over the din of the patrons. Someplace where you can actually hold a conversation.

Then again, my husband is behind the wheel all day, and I know how much he dreads going out. So, we could stay in. In that case, my thoughts would turn more toward wine and some romantic music. Oh yes, we could light some candles and open a bottle of wine, then sit back and let the sounds of Josh Groban or Il Diva fill the room. As an added touch, we might even disconnect the phone.

I don’t know yet what, if any of these things, we will do to celebrate Valentine’s Day. But I do know, the most important part is, we’ll spend some time together.

I’d love to hear what you consider romantic. I’ve posted that question on the Relationship’s Forum. Please use this link to share your thoughts on the subject. What do you find romantic?


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