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Survival Mode


Life is full of peak experiences, valleys, phases and changing circumstances. We may always *want* to feel as if we are in control of everything and are steadily progressing in all areas of our lives, but sometimes all we can do is survive. A woman I used to work with at an insurance company is a good example of this.

When I met my co-worker who I will call Gena, she had been working for the company for years and enjoyed a very high rank. She was admired and respected yet one day while we were all in a group she admitted something I found astonishing. When she first started with the company, decades before, her children were very young and would get sick often. Having no one else to care for them, sheíd take days off from work which would land her on attendance probation. Then as soon as she earned her way off of probation, one of the children would get sick again and sheíd go right back on. This cycle was repeated over and over again for ten long years with Gena always on the verge of being fired!

We all go through hard times. In Sidney Poitierís spiritual autobiography, The Measure of a Man, he referred to the time he was sleeping on rooftops in New York City as his ďtime of ashes.Ē Most likely youíve never experienced that level of destitution, still every once in awhile you might find that a piece of your life is in shambles. Right now Iím very gratified with my writing life and my family is doing exceptionally well. These two areas are where I put most of my time, energy and enthusiasm. However in the interest of my career, family and my own need for solitude, Iíve sacrificed what was once a thriving social life. Friendships Iíve had for years are barely surviving.

Weíre not always at the top of our game with everything. If you find yourself just scraping by, here are some ways to endure survival mode with dignity.

**Control what you can control. Gena said while she couldnít help being on attendance probation she made sure everything else was on point in terms of her performance. When it comes to my friendships, I make sure Iím present for big events like baby showers and weddings. And I try to call everyone in my phone book once a year.

**Remember you donít have to be the best, you just have to be the best you can be right now and in time youíll get better. This is actually a piece of writing advice I discovered while reading Ansen Dibellís book ďPlot.Ē It applies to every aspect of life. All we can do is our best.

**Be grateful for what you do have. I donít see my friends much anymore, but I am grateful to have my work and my children. Theyíve both taught me so much that I think when I resurrect my social life, Iíll be a better friend partly due to this time Iíve taken off and the experiences Iíve had.

**If your current circumstances arenít allowing you to perform at a level you find satisfactory, set a deadline for a time when you can aim for higher ground. Keep a journal and write in it for five minutes a day about the future you envision. Say to yourself, ďIíve only just begun. Iíve only just begun. Iíve only just begunÖĒ

The end of Genaís story is what inspires me the most. By surviving, she went from barely hanging on to her job by a single thread into a leadership position. Itís like Iyanla Vanzant says, trouble isnít permanent, it always, always passes.
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