Guest Author - Cassandra George Sturges
As many women age they lose their confidence in their ability attract or keep a man interested in them sexually. They believe that most men prefer dating younger women because they are perceived as being more physically attractive. The secret to a woman building confidence as she ages is for her to recognize and appreciate her unique beauty that is shaped by her life experiences.
Sometimes building confidence is more difficult for older women because they can no longer rely on the benefits of nature supplying them with a fast metabolism and estrogen to inflate their bodies with feminine curves. But there is so much more to being a confident older woman than what the media promises that can be found in anti-aging cosmetics.
I was in the grocery store the other day and I saw a woman with a baby who was drop-dead gorgeous. For a brief moment in time, I envied her. But suddenly I realized for the first time in my life that I am no longer in competition with younger women for the same resources or the same type of man who would be interested in a woman like her.
Both of my children are in college, and I have finally learned to love the gap between my two front teeth; my deep, loud, roaring laughter that causes wind chimes to chime; and my thick ankles. It took almost a half of a century for me to finally get to a point in my life where I have learned to realize that my opinion of myself is way more important than what other people think of me.
I am going to give you the psychological anti-aging formula that will help you build self confidence that is ageless and timeless.
As some women age, they start to believe that most men are superficial and only want to date a younger woman with firm breasts and flat abs. However my professions as a past therapist and current psychology professor interacting with hundreds of students from various ethnic backgrounds and age groups, many guys have said that one of the major reasons that they prefer to date younger women is because younger women are not bitter and jaded about life, love, and men.
The first thing that a woman must do to build confidence is to let go of her past negative experiences with men or truly forgive the mate whom she is currently in a relationship with for issues and problems that happened in the past. Confidence building is a belief that the future is bright and will be filled with peace, joy, and love. There is nothing more attractive than a woman with an exuberant positive attitude.
Many older women start to feel less confident because people start telling them that they are too old for a particular shade of lipstick, style of earring, or length of dress. Men don’t have dress code rules that tell them how they should dress as they age. Nothing shreds a woman’s self confidence as she ages more than the silent criticisms from the mainstream media via magazine ads and covers while she is standing in line at the grocery store to buy dinner for her family. The models and actors on the magazines are either being ridiculed for not having a perfect body or praised for having the perfect beach body.
Younger women don’t have perfect bodies but many of them are still excited about trying a variety of accessories, hairstyles, and fashion trends. An older woman can build confidence by having the courage to never wear any item that makes her feel old or unattractive. Society is really judgmental about how women should dress as they age. No matter how old a woman is she should always wear beautiful clothes, jewelry and shoes that make her feel attractive and vibrant.
The psychological anti-aging formula for being a confident woman who ages gracefully is being able to accept the physical, psychological, and emotional changes in life with a grateful heart and a sense of humor. Add an infinite amount of forgiveness and a positive outlook on life and you will resonate a youthful, beautiful spirit that oozes with confidence.
