Guest Author - Lisa Angelettie M.S.W.

Determining your self-worth is something that you do everyday.

Asking for a specific salary.
Asking the grocery store to stock better produce.
Requesting the waiter to bring back your entree HOT next time.

All these scenarios are examples of defining boundaries and determining self-worth.

If you feel only grateful to have gotten the interview and are afraid to ask for a competitive salary...you probably don't believe you are worthy of the job or the best salary.

If you are upset about the quality of your produce and hope for a better selection next time - what message are you sending? That it's fine for the store to sell you wilted lettuce and mushy tomatoes? Probably.

If your server brings you a cold entree and you rather not make waves by complaining - will you really feel satisfied with the meal you just ate? Don't you deserve to be pleased with a meal that you paid for?

People will only treat you, or pay you, or give you what you set your self-worth at.

If you find that you are having trouble raising the bar of your standards...you could use some self-esteem building exercises.

Once your self confidence grows it will be much easier for you to ask for what you are worth.

Self-esteem/confidence building resources:

The Self Esteem Workbook is a fantastic skills building resource.


Self Esteem For Women is a website completely dedicated to building a woman's self-esteem.


Hypnosis for Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem is like a professional hypnosis session on CD. No fluff or flowers!

Lisa Angelettie M.S.W. is a psychotherapist and author on a variety of mind-body-money-relationship issues for women. You can also visit her at http://www.girlshrink.com