Guest Author - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Forget about your diet; focus on a different type of food for thought. Your thinking patterns are ingrained, but that doesn’t mean they’re forever yours. There are ways to change how you think about your body, which will change how you think about your life!

These suggestions can help you break any bad habit, from quitting smoking to dissolving an unhealthy relationship.

Identify your triggers. Be aware of potential rough spots. Perhaps spending time with your mother or at the pool always triggers negative thought patterns (she asks if you’re sure you want a second helping or you catch sight of your cellulite in the mirror). You don’t have to completely avoid these situations; just be aware that you’ll struggle more with negative body thoughts afterwards.

Make a plan. Figure out how you’ll deal with bad body image thoughts when they arise. Perhaps replacing critical thoughts with positive ones is helpful. For example, if thoughts of your dimply cellulite pop into your head, counter them with thoughts about your gorgeous smile, bright eyes, or friendly personality.

Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s a trap that’s so easy to fall into: she’s got longer legs, a smaller butt, or shinier hair. Guess what: she’s looking at you and coveting your clear skin, small nose, or soft hands. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and comparing your weaknesses to her strengths will only make you feel bad about yourself. When you find yourself envying her assets, surprise yourself and tell her what you think! Genuinely admiring and complimenting her will boost your mood and self-esteem, especially if you admit you’re jealous of her beauty. She’ll be surprised and appreciative, and you’ll feel good about yourself for being honest.

Sink into your support network. Share your resolve to change your thoughts with your friends and family – if they’re supportive – and ask them to help you. One way they could help is by pointing out when you’re having a particularly good hair day, or are really “on” with your jokes. This works wonders in helping you feel good about yourself. You could also share how self-conscious you feel about your cellulite or skin – often simply sharing your fears and concerns out loud diminishes them and makes them easier to deal with.

Remember your reasons for wanting to change. Thinking more positively about your body will improve your attitude, mood, and relationships. When you accept and love yourself, not only are you happier and more content, others are more likely to accept and love you as well.