Guest Author - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Suze Orman's eight qualities make a woman attractive to herself and others. They really will make you wealthy, and money has nothing to do with it! The four described in this article are harmony, balance, courage, and generosity. In my Suze Orman sister article, the other four are happiness, wisdom, cleanliness, and beauty.

1. Harmony. Similar to authenticity, harmony is the agreement between what you think, say, and do. If you're gritting your teeth as you say, "Sure it's no problem to get this report finished by 3 pm today," then you're not in harmony. Imbalances like this create stress, which produce feelings of anxiety and tension.

2. Balance. When you're in balance, you feel calm, rational and able to make sound decisions. You know when you're unbalanced: you hear yourself screeching or crying, and part of you knows you're not acting rationally. Yet you can't help yourself….this is normal. We all feel unbalanced sometimes, even if we're as famous as Oprah Winfrey or as financially savvy as Suze Orman! Perhaps the more balanced you are, the more comfortable you are admitting when you feel off-balance.

3. Courage. The ability to face danger without being overwhelmed by fear. You're scared but you do it anyway. You're nervous but you take the plunge. Your mouth is dry but you give it your best shot. That's courage, and it displaces fear of rocking the boat, fear of confrontation, and fear of change. According to Suze Orman, "women can be deflected from a course of action if they think it might hurt someone else. It's so much easier to hurt yourself than someone else, isn't it?"

There are lots of things to be afraid of: divorce, death, destitution, degradation, depression, denial…but most of the things we fear don't happen. Our fears are more alive in our minds than in reality – but we tend to let our minds control our reality.

4. Generosity. Suze Orman describes generosity as "giving the right thing to the right person at the right time – and it benefits both of you." Women tend to give and give and give, until they're diminished or depleted. Why do you give? Because you "should"? Because you feel guilty, embarrassed, or worried? True generosity doesn't sap you, the giver. Rather, it enhances your life, relationships, and experiences.

Wealth can be found in numerous shapes and sizes…and often doesn't have anything to do with true wealth.